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A few years ago, I was watching “Queer As Folk” and Brian Kinney, in typical unforgiving candor, gave his opinion of straight people. He said, “There are only two kinds of straight people in the world: the ones who hate you to your face and the ones who hate you behind your back.” At the time, I thought that statement was too harsh and overly cynical, but something happened this last Pride weekend that almost made me change my mind. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
Not too long ago, a new comic book store opened up in the Castro. Little neighborhood bookstores like it are becoming increasingly rare, so it was nice to see, nestled among the tireless window displays of topless men with large packages, a haven for the comic book geek that suggests gay men are into more than just looking like superheroes. It’s not a relation that’s often thought about with more than derision, but comic books and gay men actually have a lot more in common than meets the eye. More
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Gay
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Not so long ago, an English bard asked the question: “What’s in a name?” For the star crossed lovers in his play, a name was everything; it single-handedly predetermined their fates and ultimately brought about their untimely deaths. But “Romeo and Juliet” is a 16th century play written for an Elizabethan audience. And while 400 years isn’t really a long time relatively speaking, it is ample time to remove us from the confines of taxonomy that existed around the time of the plays inception. Or at least it should be. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
This past weekend, I took the opportunity afforded me by an open calendar to leave the hustle and bustle of the city, if only for a momentary respite from the month long gloom of our overcast summer. A few friends and I hitched up our wagon and headed to the relative quiet of the Saratoga Springs for my first experience with a type of camping that’s altogether different than to what we’re accustomed. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
Gay Asian Males, do we really exist? This week, I set out to find the juncture between two vastly varying cultures. One, steeped in old world traditions and the other, more a product of free modern thinking. Ultimately, I expect I’ll find the GAM at the crossroad between East and West, but as I travel along that route, I hope to get a better understanding of why we’ve proven so elusive until now. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
It’s said that you can tell a lot about a man just by the clothes he wears. For instance, a neatly pressed shirt and a nicely starched collar might indicate diligence and care. Conversely, a sloppy look might be an external signifier of some inner disorder over love and life. Simply put, the clothes make the man. But if the body over which these clothes are worn is the temple, then the feet must surely be the altar, and the shoe its god. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
Generally speaking, your friends really do have good intentions. That’s why, when people tell me I need to go out more, I know that they only have my best interests in mind. I know they don’t mean to criticize my lifestyle and my choices. They just want me to loosen up and have fun. After all, nobody wants to be alone forever. Or so they tell me. But what if not all people want to “go out more?” What if some people really are just okay with going out “less?” What if not everyone equates quantity with quality? More
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Gay
Room for Squares
It’s happened to the best of us. One second, you’re talking to your friends about so and so doing this and that, and then within the next second so and so, while still doing the same thing, has inexplicably switched genders. Pronoun slips like this are normal and relatively harmless. A giggle and a quick apology later, and you’re on to the next topic. But things, especially things having to do with gender, aren’t always so simple in our community. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
We all know there’s no road map to coming out. As such, nor is there a real timeline. Not only does each one of us have a different coming out story, but we are all at different stages of coming out. Some of us are totally out and others only partially. Regardless of what status we fall under, one thing we all have in common is that initial first step. And as difficult as taking that step was for us, it’s hard to imagine how difficult that leap must’ve been for our friends. More
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Gay
Room for Squares
As a decidedly gay man in undecidedly liberal times, I’ve been subjected to a lot of strange comments -- comments, which to less forgiving ears could easily have been interpreted as offensive, even insulting. To an Asian American, these comments can often take on a racial undertone. The bulk of these inquisitions (and I say inquisitions because most off-color comments come from a lack of understanding) are insignificant and serve only to satisfy curiosities. Every once in awhile, however, you get felled by a comment so leftfield that even you are left questioning its implications. More
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